10 Advanced Self-Management Strategies for Referrals

10 Advanced Self-Management Strategies for Referrals
As we touched on last week, self-management is the second of four (4) core competencies uncovered in the research presented in Emotional Intelligence 2.0.
Self-management is defined as “your ability to use your awareness of your emotions to stay flexible and direct your behaviour positively”. Being a referral source or referral partner who manages themselves well enables you to seek out referral sources or referral partners who are equally well-managed.
Surrounding yourself with folks who do a good job with self-management enhances your life and business while minimizing stress and drama – all in one fell swoop.
The very helpful book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, authored by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves equips us with 17 strategies that will assist us with self-management. You may recognize some of your own methods in this list of the first ten strategies. At the same time, I do hope that you will find some new ones as well.
Here it is, a list of 10 of the 17 strategies to enhance your self-management competency,
1)     Breathe right. “Shallow breathing handicaps your ability to self-manage.”
2)     Create an Emotion vs. Reason List. “In the left column write what your emotions are telling you to do, and in the right column what your reason is telling you to do.”
3)     Make Your Goals Public. “If you clearly tell other people what you are setting out to accomplish – be it friends, family or a spouse (or a referral partner) – their awareness of your progress creates an incredible sense of accountability.”
4)     Count to Ten. “Even if you don’t make it to double digits, you’ll stop the flow of frustration and anger long enough to cool down your overheated limbic system and give your rational brain some valuable time to catch up.”
5)     Sleep on it. “It’s that simple. All you need to do is force yourself to wait for the dust to settle before you make a move.”
6)     Talk to a skilled self-manager.  One of the most powerful ways to learn self-management is to seek out skilled self-managers to learn their tricks.”
7)     Smile and Laugh More. Did you know that when you laugh and smile, your face sends signals to your brain that you are happy?”
8)     Set Aside Some Time in Your Day for Problem Solving. “A 15 minute period each day where you turn off your phone, walk away from your computer, and take time to just think, is a great way to ensure your decisions aren’t muddled by your emotions.”
9)     Take control of your self-talk. “Turn “I always or I never” into “just this time or sometimes”, Replace judgmental statements like “I’m an idiot” with factual ones like “I made a mistake” and, finally, “Accept responsibility for your actions and no one else’s”.
10)  Visualize Yourself Succeeding. “Imagine yourself doing and saying the right things and allow yourself to feel the satisfaction and positive emotions that come from this.”
What of the other 7 strategies for self-management? I am going to ask you to do # 5 and “sleep on it”. It will be 7 sleeps to be precise. Until next week’s Monday Morning Referral Tip when we will review that last 7 strategies of self-management from Emotional Intelligence 2.0 that help you become and/or attract great referral sources and partners…

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