Self-Awareness, the ability “to recognize and understand emotions in yourself”, is a foundational skill for high emotional intelligence, the number one trait that will lead to relationship and referral success.
Today’s tip will be a summary of the 8 more ways by which you can “recognize and understand emotions in yourself”. Each “way” may be an idea that will help you grow your revenue by referral, your network and your emotional intelligence.
Bradberry and Greaves in their book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, identify 15 ways, in total, by which a business professional may grow their self-awareness.
Seven (7) ways were identified in last week’s tip, here are the other eight (8) ways to grow your self-awareness, the foundational skill of emotional intelligence.
1. Don’t be Fooled by a Bad Mood –
As you know, life is not perfect and the odd bad mood is inevitable. Bradberry and Greaves encourage you to reflect on the events that may have created the bad mood but to not let it “own” you for long. Do not go to dark places that will not serve you.
2. Don’t be Fooled by a Good Mood, Either –
Good moods can deceive your thinking as well. All of us can think of foolish spending or ill-conceived projects that are generated during moments of ebullience. The important point here is to be aware of your state of mind, the possible consequences of unthinking actions, and enjoy feeling good without regret. J
3. Stop and Ask Yourself Why You Do the Things You Do –
“Emotions serve an important purpose – they clue you into things that you’ll never understand if you don’t take the time to ask yourself why”, say Bradberry and Greaves. They go on to offer this strategy, ” With a little practice, you can trace your emotional reactions back to their origins and understand the purpose of your emotions”. By understanding how and what creates certain emotions in you, you will be in a better place for managing your emotions rather than the opposite, your emotions managing you.
4. Visit Your Values –
Be sure to take the time to identify your core values. What are your most important core beliefs that you hold closely and never want to forget. Is it Friends, Family, Integrity, Abundance, Joy, Peace…? Name 5 values by which you want to live and honour them every day. Think of that list before you act. The stage will be set for making choices that are true to yourself and your value system.
5. Check Yourself –
Watch your mood and make sure that it does not manifest in the way that you present yourself physically. You make be saddened by the passing of a recent friend, understandably. Do you want that event to show in the way that you look and act at networking events? Maybe, maybe not.
6. Spot Your Emotions in Books, Movies and Music –
Bradberry and Greaves tell us that, “When the lyrics or mood of a song resonate with you, they say a lot about how you feel, and when a character from a movie or book sticks in your head, it’s probably because important aspects of his or her thoughts and feelings parallel your own.” Music, reading fiction, film and art appreciation moments can be gateways to your emotions. Watch and observe yourself.
7. Seek Feedback –
Trusted members of your network can provide you with really valuable information about yourself. Seek out and be open to receive feedback from others. Their comments may be very helpful to your understanding about what’s really going on within you.
8. Get to Know Yourself Under Stress –
“Your will benefit tremendously from learning to recognize your first signs of stress”, say Bradberry and Greaves. An upset tummy or a headache, maybe an intermittent twitch, are all “voices” from within that are telling you important information about your under stress. Take the time to listen and act to protect yourself when you are under stress. Your network will thank you.
Next week’s tip will drill down into the second element of emotional intelligence: Self-Management.
Stay tuned for some really helpful strategies to assist you with this really important building block which will increase your emotional intelligence and grow your business and network.